A friend called me last night to ask about going out with a guy she was emailing from eHarmony.
They both started emailing a few weeks ago, but then both found
themselves dating someone else they’d met earlier (also from eHarmony). She's crazy about the guy she’s dating,
but really she shouldn’t be. He’s
not all that and she can do a lot better.
I think she knows this because she asked my advice on whether or not she
should meet up with the email-only eHarmony guy for a drink after work.
She rationalized it by saying that since they were online
friends it was just taking that friendship offline and thus making it more
real. And after all, he was the
one to suggest it. And I mean, it’s
just one drink. Now, can anyone
else see this plain and clear? Let
me interpret. They are both dating
people they aren’t thrilled about, but aren’t ready to leave them yet. So they figure they’ll meet for the
obligatory “coffee date” to sniff each other out. It could be sex, it could be their next relationship, it
could be anything. But let’s call
a spade a spade--it's not a drink with a friend.
My advice?
Absolutely! You aren’t
committed to your main guy yet and you want to see what else is out there so go for
it. Maybe you’ll like this guy
better. And if not then that’s
it. It’s called hedging your
bets. It’s like poker. You never know what anyone else is
holding until it’s time to put all your cards down, so you’d better have picked up
an ace somewhere along the way.
I’m just saying...a girl’s gotta eat.
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